Buddha said to keep peace not the silence!!

 Today in this post we are going to talk about one the preaching by Buddha, "Keep peace". We are going to understand what peace is and what silence is. With silence we can confuse oneself and others. When we say peace we should understand that there should be no after talks in our mind. We are talking about the quarrels and misunderstandings after which we are always in the need of having peace within relationships. 

First we will talk about different kinds of fight in terms of intention. One we fight since we like fighting with others. In Buddha's story there was one incident that is written. There was a man from a village who was rich. He was so arrogant that he never respected those who don't have money. And the worst part of his personality was he likes to frighten people with this loud voice, his possessions and his anger. Everbody in his village were afraid of him. Since most of the villagers had to go to him to ask for financial help and he use to take their lands or any kinds of property. So, the silence of these villagers are understood as the respect. And at some point when he did some unethical things he showed his power of money like let me do this or have this since you can not say no to me. I own the papers of your property. Examples is very simple one but it could be any level of selfish manner so that I hope you understand. So, in this village Buddha after elightenment has travelled many places, countries where he knew from where to start or where his presence was necessary. So Buddha while travelling around once got in this village. He started his preaching there and slowly the numbers of troubled people began to gather. They found the preaching was so social and peaceful that he got huge respect there. News travelled to fast to this arrogant rich person. He was so jealous that he compared his respect and respect for Buddha. He then thought of confronting Buddha and thought of winning Buddha in a debate. Since Buddha is a kind of saint who doesn't have any possession of any materilistic assets this rich man hardly found a clue to put on fight with Buddha. He went to the preaching and started to try, a try to frighten Buddha. He accused Buddha that the place where Buddha is preaching is the proverty of village not of a traveller so how dare he could use it for personel use. Then peacefully Buddha said, "I know it belongs to this beautiful village. I know this village has very beautiful loyal kind hearted people who love it so much to dear. But I also know that this all belongs to Nature and as you are part of this nature I am also a part of this nature. Please don't misunderstand that I am going to stay here for forever. For few days I am here and take rest. After I have to go in other journey. Then listening to the neutral statement and praising words like loyal kind hearted villagers he felt like whatelse to say. Anyways he wanted to show that he is important. He started to say, when important people visit this village first they visit his house and asks his permission but Buddha did not do that so that means Buddha is not an important person. If you are not an important person then who gave you right to preach people. Does anyone even follows you who are important rather than some of your poor disciples. Buddha kept silent and then he kept saying many things that either shows he is rich or how people are afraid of him which he interpretes like he respected. Buddha kept silent entire time. Buddha was not provoked by any terms. Buddha was not planning to plot his mistakes and start to back fire. Nothing but just the peace. This arrogant mand started to get even more angry since Buddha was not being affected, not a bit. He wanted to be physically abusing but yet buddha kept silence. Slowly his anger, pride, arrogance all got swept away since they were of no use. He realized that what he was practicing was just vain. Nothing was helping him to be respected anymore. He was sunk inside the shame that started to feel. He kept silent all of a sudden and then his eyes were seen plunged into tears. With his blur eyesight he saw the aura of Buddha that was divine. That means that after all those try with what human has, they have to bow down to positivity. Same thing happened to this arrogant person who now is just a common villager in his eyes. Back in the story, so this rich man asked Buddha how possible that was when an ill faither person like him couldn't affected any bit. He asked if Buddha was a god in the diguise of saint? Then Buddha said - "I learnt is about humanity from my practice. I practice positivity whenever I realized my mistakes. Either behavior, or words, or actions. I practice it when I saw people are suffering from any sort of problems. I practice it no matter when I was in pain or else were in my eyesight. It took a long time and I am practicing it now. World would not get better if we always react to what we heard. World will not come out of sufferings unless we forgive ourselves. It will take ages to correct our oral mistakes, or the pain we give to others with our words. There are pain in anything unless we cut ourselves from attachments. Attachments with personal relationships, acquired assets, and the respect received from people. The main root to suffering is attachment. When i realized all this I did not take it to myself anything, So, when you thought you were accusing me, ordering me I was not taking it to myself. It was the misunderstanding of yours that made you speak like such. Now after trying all what you have with yourself and saw nothin worked out you lost happiness. You are left with only possible thing to do is surrender to the fact that nothing you owned is your's . So you still trying to crave for the thing that could make you happy so you are asking me these question or you want to believe that you lost to a god or an important person. So my answer will not work unless you break this chain of belief that there is nothing that you own in this world rather than your existence is sole. You just come to the life to fix the past life's affairs, to fix the broken but with worldly activity makes you entangled and put's you in more miseries. So, cut the attachments and your expectations will go away and then you will start to understand that positive being is the true friend that will make you smile truely".

So like in th stroy sometimes we are like that arrogant person who likes fight. However, in life we fight for other reason that is without any reason. We fight with our friends or family for just small arguements and we keep grudge inside as such things if continues in our life again and again. The reason is that God makes us family in this life is to correct our past activity. So in this life for no reason our closed ones makes us feel bad or tells us we have mistaken then we think, I did this and that and still he or she is not grateful of it. Even when we did our work not for expectations but at that moment when we fight we make them feel like we did those as a favor so that they could give us back the same. Or we make them feel like you are not loyal. So with many perspective people always fight. So without intention of fighting also sometimes we put on fight with. So that is why we havet to learn to keep silent. 

Now, when to keep silent and when to keep peace. Since peace and silence are not same with their consequences. Peace is when we are not taking any comment in person unless it is realized as our flaw that needs correction. And when we take it for us then we decide not so show our frustration show us with upsetting words in reply that could hurt others. Eg. When parent says not to smoke it will ruin your life. We know smoking kills but we got into it's bad habit, being frustrated we reply them that this is my life and let me do what I wish to do. Don't bother in my life. Here we hurt our parents just because we are frustrated of our bad habit. Furthermore, when parents receive such selfish manner and foolish reply they also gets upset since the entire time since the child gets into a mothers's womb they lived their life for the welfare of the family. They dream for happy family and the expectation is thier children would become successful along with being obedient to them. Then parents will start to back fire in general. So like this we again fight. 

There are such fights too that goes after small arguments. Like people will fight in their mind. They imagine things like I will do this and do that. They plan things that they wish next time they would win. So plotting is all done since the small arguments. So this is done all in silence. Such people would not see their flaws in their activities. They will now understand for example the in laws like for example parents in law. Both parties especially fight in mind since they see their good works but not that they would look for their mistakes. Especially the younger ones most of the times don't consider that what parents told me is actually for a good reason. I must learn this trait. Learning is benefitial everyone knows but they take is like if I was learning from my own parents it would have been more favorable not from in laws. So like this people put conditions and beliefs and keep oneself limited to the learning. They don't show their concern to correct their mistakes and if done they need positive feedback just too soon that is not possible. They forget that people stops reacting when one is stubborn to make mistakes so even if stubborn makes changes they won't notice their traits too soon. 

After reading all these you must have understood that what is good and what is not. So learn to keep peace. 

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